Dear Annie: My sister-in-law is refusing to speak to me after my son’s wedding
Dear Annie: My oldest son recently got married.
As the mother of the groom, I was responsible for the rehearsal dinner but had little say in the wedding or reception. The bride and groom arranged the seating, placing my sister-in-law and her family on the bride’s side.
Days later, my SIL called my husband, expressing hurt and feeling disrespected by their seating.
Despite efforts to reach out, share wedding photos and focus on the joy of the invite (since I was only allowed a small number of invites), she now refuses to speak to us.
Should I try to mend the relationship or accept it as a lesson learned and move on without her? — Help
Dear Help: There’s only so much you can do here — and it sounds like you’ve already done it.
Your SIL is holding you responsible for a decision that wasn’t even yours. If you explain that to her and she still chooses to stay upset, that’s on her.
You’ve done what you could, and now it’s time to accept what you can’t control.
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